Without even realizing it and wanting to do better, you look terrible.

When two people are attracted to each other, simple actions such as jokes, laughter and looking into each other’s eyes can be real magic called flirting.

But if you overdo it, then flirting can turn into a nightmare, and, mainly, for a girl. It can be awkward, unfunny, terrible, painful, and in some cases simply terrifying phenomenon for your love object.

Why does flirting sometimes go to hell and turn into drama? I will help you figure it out and talk about the five most important mistakes that you make without realizing it.

The main rule is to flirt when it is appropriate, and when you are completely confident in yourself. In any other case, this is falsification and the game of some other person. The girl will immediately feel it, see it, and both of you will be in an extremely awkward position.

  1. Do not be overly romantic

“I went on a date with a guy who said:“ Do you know that you are sitting next to your future husband? ” I replied: “You know, actually not.” And not because it was our first date, which he didn’t even bring a wallet to, but because “Will you marry me?” “This is a question, not a statement.”

For many people, the ultimate goal of flirting is to find a long-term partner. Perhaps you crave this so much that you already decided for your girlfriend, wrote a script for both of you for the rest of the days, drew yourself a million different paintings in your head and believed in all that you forgot about the most important thing: you are on your first date, and the girl next to you does not understand what is happening at all.

Do not exaggerate either the importance of your meeting, or your ardent feelings – all this will look just funny. You might as well have met her with a Mexican band performing a love serenade in honor of her, amid a huge heart made of flowers.

This includes excessive praising of a girl, a million compliments per second, superlatives of all adjectives a la “best”, “ideal”, “very best”. Man, what are you doing at La La Land? This does not work!

  1. Do not show that you are passionately seductive and hot

That is too romantic, that is too sexy – both types of men are absolutely terrible.

While sex drive is a huge component of any relationship that makes people flirt with each other, good flirtation is the absence of rude and direct allusions to your desires. This means that you need to come to mutual attraction, not to mention this – that’s the whole point!

That is why the most important thing is to avoid unwanted touches (any touches must be avoided), and not to say any “seductive” things that hint about your desires.

Many pickup trainers and all kinds of blogs advise touching someone at an early stage in order to communicate their desire, and this is really a very bad idea. Rather, it will be perceived as a gross violation of personal boundaries and rudeness.

  1. Do not get hung up on social networks

Whether you like it or not, most of the dating is now in digital format. People meet, flirt, fall in love, talk, swear and break up using their phones.

There is no indication that this trend will disappear, and although online dating can help people find each other, it is also a source of a whole host of new problems when it comes to flirting.

Flirting on the Internet is not at all like flirting in real life. After exchanging a couple of messages in the dating application, putting a couple of likes and chatting overnight in the messenger, many men think that during the meeting you can already behave “freely”. Here they forget what we recommended in the previous paragraph, and the boundaries of the permissible are erased.

Some, after communicating on a social network, only get lost in life, and the process of flirting just does not go. So at a minimum, pay attention to the virtual world – immediately into reality.

  1. Do not be too demanding

If you are flirting with someone you don’t know very well, it’s important not to expect too much from him. What is interesting in flirting is a certain lightness, so you do not need to immediately expect one hundred percent mutual understanding, a deep relationship at the cosmic level and all that sort of thing.

The purpose of flirting may be to feel sympathy for each other on a light wave or to understand that nothing is working out. Moreover, this process is more exciting when it is slightly stretched in time, so do not expect everything at once.

Slow, light, gentle flirting is the key to success for both of its participants.

By Cindy
May 21, 2020

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